The Ultimate Hub for BPD Support
Promoting G.R.A.C.E During
Periods of Crisis
Wearing our wristband, lanyards, hoodies and t-shirts or carrying our hidden disability ID card will provide you with additional tools and feeling of comfort for navigating daily stress and societal triggers.
When individuals with BPD find themselves experiencing a mental health crisis, we also hope these products will encourage others to pause and apply a
de-escalation approach known as G.R.A.C.E:
1. GRANTING me extra time to process and respond
2. RESPONDING to my needs, not my emotions
3. ASKING me what I need and listen without judgment
4. CONFIRMING your desire to help, not harm
5. EXPLAINING next steps, including available support strategies
Respond vs. React = the goal in any crisis
Yes, Emergency Responders Check for Medical IDs
American Medical ID recently surveyed emergency medical professionals ranging from first responders to paramedics. Among the results:
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More than 95% of respondents look for a medical ID during emergencies.
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More than 75% look for a medical ID immediately upon assessing a patient.
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95% look at the patient's wrist to find a medical ID, and 68% look for an ID on the patient's neck.
Hidden Disability ID Card
Testimonial:
" I presented my ID card at an urgent care facility in Sandy Springs, GA and they ignored it and did not adjust their treatment approach. Lucky for me, they were not able to treat me due to my blood pressure being at a critical stage, and advised me to go to Northside hospital. As soon as the folks at Northside saw my card - EVERYONE I came in contact with during a very scary experience treated me with grace and compassion!"
-A.Johnson
S.T.A.Y.C.A.L.M Family Card
"I'm NOT BORDERLINE, MY AMYGDALA IS JUST UPSET! PLEASE GET TO KNOW ME!"
-Dr. Courtney Tracy
Testimonial:
"Last night, my daughter had a meltdown—one of those moments where every word felt like an attack, and my instinct was to fix, defend, or run. But I remembered the S.T.A.Y. C.A.L.M. card. I put in my earbuds, took a deep breath, and reminded myself, ‘This is not about me.’ Instead of reacting, I asked, ‘What do you need from me right now?
At first, she kept spiraling, but I stayed steady. I let her words become background noise, like Charlie Brown’s teacher—wah wah wah—until I heard the moment her voice cracked. That’s when I knew she was ready. I asked, ‘Do you want a hug or space?’ She exhaled, looked away, and whispered, ‘Just sit with me.’
Thirty minutes later, we were watching her favorite show like nothing happened. No ER visit. No police. No explosive fallout. Just a storm that passed because I didn’t fuel it. This card didn’t just help her—it saved us."
-D.Morris
Press Pause Crisis Wristbands
Testimonial:
"I was out with co-workers and felt tightness in my chest and suddenly couldn't breathe or form a sentence. However, I was able to point to my wristband, alerting the group that I was in crisis and having a panic attack.""
- V.Brown
Migs Mello: A Heartfelt Story About Big Feelings, Understanding, and the Power of Squishes!
Listen to to audio samples below! Purchase the audiobook for a family member or for yourself!
Migs Mello isn’t just any creature in Amygdala Land—he’s warm, kind, and full of squishes! But when his big feelings get too big, something strange happens… his soft green fur flashes yellow, then red! Scared and confused, Migs doesn’t understand why everyone runs away when all he really needs is support.
One day, his friend Hippo Campo does something no one else has before—she doesn’t run. Instead, she gives him a squish. And in that moment, everything changes.
Join Migs on an adventure of self-discovery, friendship, and the power of understanding emotions. Can the creatures of Amygdala Land learn to help Migs before he turns red? Will Migs finally realize he’s not a monster—just a friend with big feelings?
More Than Just a Children’s Story
This book isn’t just for kids—it’s a safe, non-threatening way for individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) to start conversations with their loved ones about what it’s like to experience a crisis. For many, the fear of being misunderstood, abandoned, or seen as “too much” can make reaching out feel impossible.
But what if there were a way to explain emotional dysregulation without shame or judgment? Migs Mello’s story gives words, images, and a relatable journey to something that’s so often misunderstood.
By reading this book together, families can begin to see emotional outbursts not as something to fear or punish, but as a hidden distress signal—one that simply needs compassion, support, and understanding instead of emergency responses.
A Call to Action for Loved Ones
If you’ve ever felt helpless watching someone you love struggle with intense emotions, this story offers a new perspective. Instead of reacting with fear or frustration, what if you could offer a solution that actually helps?
This book encourages families to invest in safe, effective, and non-threatening ways to support their loved ones, fostering connection rather than distance. Because understanding is the first step toward healing.
💖 Watch Migs Mello’s story now and discover why
💛 “When someone’s flashing yellow, give squishes, not distance!” 💛
🎥✨ Click below to listen to a few snippets of this heartwarming tale! ✨
Additional resource for family support: https://www.tara4bpd.org/
100% of proceeds helps Press Pause, Inc. continue to be a hub of resources and support for our BPD Warriors (BPD-focused podcast, career counseling, community, hidden disability products, etc.)
Migs Mello & The Mysteries of Amygdala Land (3)
🎧 Why this audiobook is more than just a kids' story:
✅ A Safe Way to Start Conversations – Families often struggle to understand emotional crises. Migs Mello’s journey provides a gentle, non-threatening way to talk about emotions, BPD, and support.
✅ Helps Loved Ones See the Signs – Instead of reacting with fear, they’ll learn how to recognize distress signals and respond with understanding.
✅ Encourages a Safe, Supportive Approach – No more panic, no unnecessary ER visits—just compassion, connection, and calm strategies.
✅ Perfect for All Ages – Whether you’re a parent, partner, sibling, or friend, this story helps explain how to support, not shame.
🎙️ If you’ve ever felt unheard or struggled to explain your emotions, this audiobook is for YOU.
100% of proceeds helps Press Pause, Inc. continue to be a hub of resources and support for our BPD Warriors
🌟 Let’s change the way we respond to emotional crises—one squish at a time. 🌟
📲 Download now and start the conversation today! 🧠💛 #SquishNotDistance #BPD #EmotionalSupport #UnderstandingBigFeelings #ShowMeGrace #PressPause
Hidden Disability Lanyard
Testimonial:
"While I overheard one of the paramedics stating 'they had never seen this lanyard before' - she took the time to read it and instead of firing questions at me, gave me the time I needed to get my bearings and I was able to communicate that I was having a mental health crisis and let them know what hospital I wanted to go to - even though it was a bit farther from where they wanted to take me."
-B.Lewis
Out Loud Voice Hoodies
We invite you to "Say it with your chest!" (Shout out to Kevin Hart) by purchasing our Out Loud Voice hoodies!
We encourage all members of The Human Grace Collective to submit their own Out Loud Voice expressions (i.e., quotes or statements that bring you a sense of comfort or empowerment).
And if we select your suggestion for our next t-shirt or hoodie collection, we will share the profits with you!
